Angry Kids
bonnie writes
the kids around here are so ANGRY. i dont blame them, but i feel so helpless to remedy the situation. The kids in this area arent given one single thing to look forward to in their futures.
They have to live with and endure parents who do nothing all day long..nothing except fuss if their checks are late on the 1st of every month. Parents who would rather put $5000 sets of rims and thousands of dollars worth of car audio..or rediculous paint jobs on their vehicles than buy them a book…or some clothes..or set up a college fund for their futures.
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let me be the one to clue you in on whats happening here..what has already happened. Let me just say that i am speaking DIRECTLY to those parents who i have described above.
YOU THERE!! you sitting around letting the streets raise your precious babies.
Comment by bonnie — October 8, 2009 @ 1:47 pmYOU!! listen up. YOU there!! who has your hand out at the beginning of the every single month…yet does nothing to try to better your situation.
YOU!! GET UP. stand up and realize you have become a slave to the government. You have manipulated the system and allowed that very system to become your master. You have forgotten your children..you have been sitting there letting the government own you and take care of you instead of becoming an independant and strong human being. Your children are running wild…and they are the future of this country.
HEY YOU!! get off ur sorry a** and take charge. YOU have no excuse anymore. none.
I agree with you, bonnie…unfortunately, those who need to hear that probably won’t be sitting at a computer to read this post. It is sad really:(
Comment by spitfire — October 9, 2009 @ 5:14 pmI feel as if some people need to understand that, just because you were one of the ones to have things handed to you on a silver platter Do not mean people are not trying to be independent. Not just that but people like Bonnie and spitfire are the ones do not want to hire certain people were they can half way live.
Comment by realtalk — October 10, 2009 @ 5:10 pmOMG,RealTalk, not everybody who actually works has had things given to him on a silver platter…certainly not me.
I came from a middle class family with one parent who did not complete school. My parents insisted that I would not only finish school but I would also go to college. And I did. I didn’t get government help with any of it. I attended an out of state private college that cost $6,000 a semester. I wanted to go there because it was a good school. Mom and Dad helped out where they could. I received small scholarships every so often. You know how I paid for college? I worked my butt off. I worked a 60 hour week and still attended school fulltime. I didn’t own a car; I didn’t party on weekends. I studied and worked. I earned my degree and then continued on for a Master’s. Nothing was given to me. I worked for it.
I now help people who want to help themselves. If they truly want to better themselves, there is always a way. First, they have to want to do it and not have it done for them. Bonnie and I were only referring to those who don’t want to help themselves. If there are any “silver platters” being handed out, it is to those who completely rely on government and have no desire to better themselves. I understand that sometimes people need help need some financial assistance but to solely want that and not create an independent life for themselves or their families…that is who Bonnie and I were referring to. By the way, people can live on much less than they often want to. I know, I have done it.
I would love to know how many of those who you say we don’t hire have the most expensive brand name clothing and shoes, ipods, cell phones,…need I keep going. I was grown, working fulltime, saved money, etc. before I bought that kind of stuff. Oh, and I have never owned a new car, but mine works just fine. RealTalk, get a real life before bashing hard workers like me.
Comment by spitfire — October 14, 2009 @ 11:45 amYou know spitfire you do not have to defend yourself to me, because I work and support my family day in and day out.I dont look for any hand me outs ,this I have been told all my life, (anything worth having is worth working to have).I am not making excuses for any one that have the tools and knowledge to be all they can be. Yet the ones that have not been giving the chance to learn and was not pointed and the right direction. And as far as you say get a life I have one and it do not include tearing others down to make myself stand out.
You need to come back to earth and not in your own little perfect world. One more thing then I am threw talking, would you go to apply for a job or a interveiw with rags on or would you go dress decent? Thanks for your time and concerns.
Comment by realtalk — October 19, 2009 @ 10:16 pmJust to cool things down here a bit….I don’t think anyone here is picking at the folks that are legitimately needy, those people that are going through a tough time and NEED the help of a hand-out. I’m thinking it’s the folks that are taking advantage and riding the government and charity of others that are getting under bonnie and spitfire’s skin.
Comment by pinklady — October 20, 2009 @ 7:51 pmIt’s one thing to need help, it’s another thing to keep taking help long after you should be able to help yourself.
This was Bonnie’s original post.
“They have to live with and endure parents who do nothing all day long..nothing except fuss if their checks are late on the 1st of every month. Parents who would rather put $5000 sets of rims and thousands of dollars worth of car audio..or rediculous paint jobs on their vehicles than buy them a book…or some clothes..or set up a college fund for their futures.
let me be the one to clue you in on whats happening here..what has already happened. Let me just say that i am speaking DIRECTLY to those parents who i have described above. ”
Notice please what particular group, Bonnie was referring to. Thank you, Pinklady for pointing out what obviously some can’t see.
Nobody is bashing people who fall on hard times. We give, we help, that is what we are called to do. People who have little to nothing but are trying, more power to them and may God bless you immensely. People who have terrible clothes and $5,000 rims have their priorities mixed up. Those who use and abuse the system…well, Realtalk, they are taking your money, the money that could be helping put your kids who try through college, who could be helping those who are working several part-time jobs because they can’t find a decent paying full-time job thanks to the economy, those who are going back to school to start over with their careers and lives. They are the ones who need the money, not the ones who sit back get a government check every month and never try to do anything.
“I am not making excuses for any one that have the tools and knowledge to be all they can be. Yet the ones that have not been giving the chance to learn and was not pointed and the right direction.” That is an excuse. And as far as my life, I was using it as example. I actually know many people who have had to do what I did and more.
As far as a perfect world, if that were the case, there would be no need for posts about what is troubling our society and world!!
Comment by spitfire — October 21, 2009 @ 11:39 amI totally understand both points of view. It is very easy to condemn a life that one has never had to endure.
Unfortunately, there are few positive things for these kids to do in Bainbridge. And the few positive things there is to do in Bainbridge most of the kids that Bonnie refers to can’t afford. Speaking as a member of the black race, most of the people that I know, work hard and try to raise their kids to respect themselves and others. There will always be some parents,of all races, who don’t care what their children are doing and won’t take the time to show them the right road.
For those parents, I say, Shame On You And Wake Up! I think that most just want a peaceful community in which to live and raise our family. We can’t achieve this by only blaming the parents for the way these kids have turned out. We must all in our respective communities take responsibility for what has happened here. And make a positive change.
Comment by jgadson — October 27, 2009 @ 10:07 amThanks jgadson for pointing out the way we should all look at things from both ends of the barrel.Bonnie’s first comment realy made others like me, that do all they can to raise there kids to be respectful and make thier own choices feel as though she was talking to all of us .
I did not say what I said to make excuses for anyone because at the end of the day I have to give account for my action and others have to do the same.If you really want to increase the outcome of our youth lets work together and come up with something for all of the youth to do thats constructive yet they can afford. Once again thanks for your concerns.
Comment by realtalk — October 29, 2009 @ 3:17 pmYou are right the kids in our communities are angry. Once again I will state that we need to develop some type of positive outlet and possibly an at risk youth program for our children. I get tired of hearing they’re not my kids or problem why should I give my hard earned money, well the sad reality is they are every ones problem when they start getting into trouble, not just the parent. We do have alot of slack a@@ parents, but why should that be taken out on the kids, most of them are just reaching out for help, some just go about it the wrong way.
I guess you could say bad attention is better than none at all. Some get no attention, maybe very little to eat at home, maybe worry if the lights will be on next month or even tomorrow; ect. So why not get sent off some where like Blakely atleast some of these things will become the least of their worries for a little while, until they have to go home. These things should never be the worries of a child, but the sad truth is that this is happening in many homes; even the ones who have a parent or parents who go to work everyday, even work two jobs, who do without just so their kids can have what they need and still struggle to make ends meet.
We need to come together as a community and stop seeing the world from a mine & yours (the haves & the have nots) and start seeing the world as OURS TOGETHER (United we will stand a prevail, Divided we will crash and Fail) Only we can make a difference and a change, if we wait for some one else to do it, it will never happen and it will be to late
Comment by sinfullysweet09 — November 16, 2009 @ 3:00 pm