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Bainbridge and Decatur County Georgia

24/7 Crisis & Support Lines
Halcyon Home, Thomasville 800-284-9980
District Attorney's Victim Advocate
229-246-5222 or 1-888-621-0294

Domestic violence is a crime, not a private or family matter, and should be responded to as a crime by law enforcement. Between 1976 and 2004, approximately 19 percent of all homicides in the United States were committed within families or intimate relationships.

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Danger Signals
Victim's
Danger Signals
Power and
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Power and
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If You Are
a Victim
If You Are
a Victim
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Battering is the single major cause of injury to women.
  • Every 9 seconds a woman is beaten
  • Almost 90% of all children actually witness the violence in their home
  • At least 3.5 million children are exposed to domestic violence each year
  • Children are present in 50% of the homes when police intervention occurs
  • One half of all batterers also abuse their children
  • From 60% to 80% of batterers and victims grew up in violent homes
  • Child witnesses of domestic violence are 50% more likely to abuse alcohol and/or drugs
  • Battered women are 8 times more likely to abuse their children while living with an abusive partner
  • 63% of all American males age 11-20 in jail for homicide killed their mother's batter
Studies show that many children from violent homes grow up to repeat the history of domestic violence. Domestic violence affects all socioeconomic, racial, class and ethnic groups. Domestic violence is a societal problem that touches everyone's lives; those who are abused, community members, and the youth of tomorrow. Preventatlve education is the first step to ending the violence. Reaching out with support is the next.

Remember, yes to one of these maybe the only signal you get. You cannot change other people, but you can take care of yourself.

  • Do you feel frightened when you are with him? Do you constantly think about what might make him angry?
  • Family Background...were his child/parent or prior romantic relationships violent and/ or abusive?
  • Did he beat his previous wife (wives) or girlfriends?
  • Has he ever threatened you with violence?
  • Does he use force in a disagreement with you?
  • Has he ever destroyed your property in anger?
  • Is he unreasonably jealous?
  • Does he try to control you? What seems to be harmless interest escalates to the point that he makes all decisions.
  • Does he blame others? Whatever goes wrong is someone else's fault, usually yours.
  • Is he hypersensitive? Any criticism is an attack. Any inconvenience is a personal injustice.
  • Is he cruel or rude to those unable to defend themselves: children, pets, or service people?
  • Does he force sex, or make you perform sexual acts you do not want to do?
  • Does his personality change suddenly from loving and pleasant to violent and cruel?

Through these techniques below, a batterer seeks to create the perfect victim: exhausted, confused, depressed, demoralized, spiritless and alone.

Violence is a learned behavior that is often passed from one generation to another. Many victims of domestic abuse report growing up in violent homes or being abused as children. The same is true of men who batter. Exposure to violence in the home affects everyone in their adult lives.

Using Intimidation
Making her afraid by using looks, actions, gestures
Smashing things
Destroying her property
Abusing pets
Displaying weapons.

Using Emotional Abuse
Putting her down
Making feel bad about herself
Calling her names
Making her think she's crazy
Playing mind games
Humiliating her
Making her feel guilty

Using Isolation
Controlling what she does, who she sees and talks to, what she reads, where she goes
Limiting her outside involvement
Using jealousy to justify actions

Minimizing, Denying And Blaming
Making light of the abuse and not taking her concerns about it seriously
Saying the abuse didn't happen
Shifting responsibility for abusive behavior
Saying she caused it

Using Coercion And Threats
Making and/or carrying out threats to do something to hurt her
Threatening to leave her, to commit suicide, to report her to welfare
Making her drop charges
Making her do illegal things

Using Economic Abuse
Preventing her from getting or keeping a job
Making her ask for money
Giving her an allowance
Taking her money
Not letting her know about or have access to family income

Using Male Privilege
Treating her like a servant
Making all the big decisions
Acting like the "master of the castle"
Being the one to define men's and women's roles

Using Children
Making her feel guilty about the children
Using the children to relay messages
Using visitation to harass her
Threatening to take the children away
24/7 Crisis & Support Lines
Halcyon Home, Thomasville 800-284-9980
District Attorney's Victim Advocate 229-246-5222 or 1-888-621-0294

If You Are a Victim of Domestic Abuse

The most difficult step for you to take is to admit that you are being or have been abused by your partner. Remember, your partner's violence is the problem, not you. You do not provoke it. You do not deserve it.

You may feel trapped, alone, and that you have lost control of your life. You may have nightmares or flash' backs of abusive incidents. Your eating and sleeping habits may change. You may feel depressed or hopeless and lack interest in things you once enjoyed. The physical and emotional suffering you experience may seem to use up all the energy you have.

Your safety is the first priority, and only you can truly judge what will be the safest and best way to handle your situation. Leaving an abusive relationship is not always the safest solution. Many domestic assaults occur while a victim is trying to leave the relationship. If you are being abused, you should consider all options when trying to find a way to end the violence as safely as possible.

Every person in an abusive relationship needs a safety plan that has been developed for that person's situation and circumstances. Domestic violence shelters and advocates can help you develop one for your situation. If you feel it is safe, let trusted friends and family know about your situation. They can be part of your safety plan. Know where to get help. Tell someone what is happening to you.

How to get help?

Remember, as a domestic violence victim, you are not alone. Do not lose hope. The support network in your community may include counseling services, hotlines, support groups, legal resources, and shelters that can give you support, advice, financial assistance, counseling, and legal help.

Call a victim's advocate. They can help you obtain protection or restraining orders from local law enforcement and family court offices. There are several types of restraining orders. The types of restraining orders available and the process for application and issuance of orders varies with each community.

All states now have crime victim compensation programs that reimburse victims for certain out-of-pocket expenses, including medical expenses, lost wages, and other financial needs considered reasonable. To be eligible, you must report the crime to the police and cooperate with the criminal justice system.


24/7 Crisis & Support Lines
Halcyon Home, Thomasville 800-284-9980
District Attorney's Victim Advocate 229-246-5222 or 1-888-621-0294

Safely Plan - Leaving an abusive relationship requires planning.

Pack a small bag with:
  • $50 or more in cash
  • Clothing for you and your children
  • Prescriptions
  • Eyeglasses, etc.
  • Checkbook/Debit Card
  • Abuserís social security # and DOB
  • Abuserís work address and telephone #
  • Insurance policies
  • Pension plan
  • 401 (k)
  • Certificates of Deposits
  • Childrenís birth certificates
  • Immunization records
  • Important phone numbers
  • Keys to your residence and vehicle
Keep your whereabouts confidential and call 911 if your in trouble!!

ADA Garrett Like a Pimp Drags His Prostitute (Sept, 2010)
Domestic Violence; The frustrations of the system, Assistant District Attorney Michael Garrett talks about a domestic violence incident he witnessed.


Jarretta Women Beaten, Choked, Hospitalized in Domestic (Sept, 2010)
Domestic Violence; In this interview, Five weeks after Jarretta was seriously hurt in the assault she wanted to pursue charges. Another 5 weeks pass, and she is "back with him".


Victim Advocate Domestic Violence- Victim Advocates (Sept, 2010)
District Attorney Joe Mulholland's Victim Advocate Wendy Knight talked with us about the services they offer, and some of the obstacles they face in helping victims of domestic violence.


Victim Advocate Crime Victims Bill of Rights
In July of 2010, the Crime Victims Bill of Rights was updated and expanded. These rights include assistance to domestic violence victims to help them get away from their abuser and establish a new life in a safe environment.


Domestic Abuse Survivor A Survivor's Story (Sept, 2010)
This is the story of and from a domestic abuse survivor, obviously a strong woman because after 2 and a half years of abuse, she was able to break free of the cycle.


Some Do Not Survive And Some Do Not Survive (Sept, 2010)
A mother speaks of her daughter and grandson's murder and spouse's suicide.



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